People are naturally curious when it comes to Surrogacy. As a Surrogate, you’ll get asked some pretty strange questions, so having a response ready is helpful when you’re caught off guard.
Here are the Top 5 questions you’ll probably be asked and some answers that you can use, depending on how hormonal you’re feeling that day. ;)
1) Isn’t it going to be hard to give up the baby?
Mild: “Since the baby isn’t mine, I’m not giving it up. I’m giving it back to his/her parents.”
Wild: “Nah. It’s just a really intense version of babysitting!”
2) How much are they paying you?
Mild: “Bringing a baby into the world for deserving parent(s) is priceless.”
Wild: “How much do YOU get paid?”
3) Did you get pregnant the “old fashioned” way?
Mild: “No, the embryo was created from his (or donor) sperm and her (or donor) egg, then implanted in me via IVF. I’m not genetically linked to the baby at all.”
Wild: “If by old fashioned, you mean in a clinic, with a fertility doctor, then yes.”
4) Do you ever wish you didn’t do it?
Mild: “No, helping someone fulfill their dreams of becoming a parent was an amazing experience.”
Wild: “No, but I do wish I never told you.”
5) Your husband was ok with another man getting you pregnant?
Mild: “He’s actually been a great support system. I couldn’t have done this without him.”
Wild: “He doesn’t know yet.”
What other questions have you been asked? How did you respond?
Staci Swiderski, CEO and owner of Family Source Consultants has been involved in the field of reproductive medicine since 2002. Staci has vigorously grown the comprehensive egg donation and gestational surrogacy agency to become a worldwide leader in the third-party reproduction field. Staci is a former intended parent herself. She and her husband welcomed their son via gestational surrogacy in 2005. Additionally, Staci had the experience of assisting an infertile couple (AKA Recipient Parents) build their family through her efforts as an egg donor, with her donation resulting in the births of their son and daughter.
