“Though it is definitely a sacrifice in many ways, what you will get back from this experience completely outweighs it. The memories are incredible and I have found something I’m so passionate about through surrogacy. I would honestly do this forever if I could!”
Q: What led you to become a Surrogate?
When I found out my brother was gay, I knew he couldn’t have a family as easily as others. I wanted to help him but he decided he didn’t want to have children. I still had the desire to help others and decided to look into an agency and found FSC.
Q. Who was your greatest support person throughout your journey?
My husband and my parents. They are always supportive and there whenever I need them. I am incredibly grateful for them.
Q. What made you decide to choose your Intended Parents?
The first journey, something just felt right after reading their profile and I knew they had been trying for close to 10 years. On my second journey, I was a bit apprehensive at first due to them having previous surrogates and some difficulties but I absolutely adored them! After praying about it, I just knew they were the match for me, no matter the outcome. I am thrilled to say their baby girl just arrived perfectly healthy and it was truly an amazing experience. They have become like family to us.
Q. What are some of the highlights of your journey?
Meeting the parents for the first time, the anatomy scans, and most importantly, seeing their faces when their baby girl was finally in their arms. There is nothing like being able to give someone a gift like this… I absolutely loved being a surrogate. I feel very blessed to have been able to do this.
Q. Do you have advice for women who are interested in becoming a gestational surrogate?
I would suggest contacting a few agencies, do some research on what the process involves and ask lots of questions! Do not settle or rush the process in any way and be sure to follow your heart and your intuition. Your perfect match is out there waiting for you ♥️
Q. What did you find was the biggest misconception people had about surrogacy?
If I had a dollar for every time someone asked how could I “give up” the baby or not be attached. It was very simple for me as this baby is not related to me in any way. Though I definitely care about them, I would compare it to the children I babysit. I love them but do not feel any sort of maternal attachment because it is not my child. It’s a more extreme version of babysitting and I adore the photos and updates after they are born!
Q. What would you like other people to know about surrogacy?
Though it is definitely a sacrifice in many ways, what you will get back from this experience completely outweighs it. The memories are incredible and I have found something I’m so passionate about through surrogacy. I would honestly do this forever if I could!
Q. How has becoming a surrogate impacted your life?
I’ve always loved being able to help others in a big way but felt very limited once I became a mom. Though I love being home with my children more than anything, a part of me was missing. Becoming a surrogate has allowed me to still stay home and not change our daily lives much but it also gave me a way to help someone again. The added bonus was more financial stability to help my husband.
Q. How was this pregnancy different from your other pregnancies?
This last pregnancy was my toughest. Some extreme heartburn and I was incredibly uncomfortable (only to find out it’s because she was 10 lbs) but the delivery was amazing and so is recovery. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. Also, it is much easier to recover when you are able to come home and sleep through the night!
Q. What did you do to prepare yourself for separating from the baby after it was born?
I felt very confident going into it because I know this is not my child. My family was complete before I looked into becoming a surrogate and I didn’t feel attached to the girls like I did with my own because I already had that mindset going into it. I didn’t struggle with that part at all. I know their parents love them and they will surely have a wonderful life!
Q. What would you tell someone who was considering working with a surrogate?
I would say maybe talk with someone that has been through it before. Both intended parents and a surrogate if possible just to prepare yourself for the journey ahead. Make sure you do not have a strict timeline in your mind as we have limited control over things like hormone levels and all. Just go into it knowing you can walk away with your sweet baby and make sure you have a great support system.
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