Worried about how to get your spouse on board with becoming a surrogate? You are not alone; many potential surrogates say that they would love to be a surrogate, but face hesitation from their partner. Having open and honest communication and sticking to the facts is key when addressing your spouse’s concerns. This will help them understand the importance of this journey and how life changing it truly is.

  • It is normal for your partner to feel unsure about the surrogacy process.
  • Open and honest communication and help reassure your partner.
  • Addressing concerns with facts can build your partner build an understanding.
  • Medical and psychological screening processes will help reduce the risks of complications.
  • Surrogacy contracts cover childcare, housekeeping, and lost wages.

The Three Most Common Concerns Partners Have About Their Wives Becoming a Surrogate

1.“Would you get attached to the baby?”

Your wife/partner will be carrying another PARENT’S baby. The baby growing in your womb has no biological relation to you or your partner. The child would be created in a lab through IVF, using the genetic materials from your Intended Parents (or with an egg donor).You will have you go through a psychological evaluation to ensure you are emotionally prepared for this.

2. “What if something happens to you at birth?”

This concern is valid, but unlikely to happen. As a surrogate, you will have carried your own pregnancies without complication and will have completed a thorough medical and psychological screening process, reducing the likelihood of experiencing any complications.

In your legal agreement, you have the option to include loss of organ fees in the event of a hysterectomy and life insurance is a standard contract item.

3. “Who is going to take care of you and the kids if you go on bed rest?”

Childcare, housekeeping, and lost wages are standard in surrogacy contracts. As your surrogacy agency and advocate, Family Source Consultants would not require your partner to take on the burden of caring for you, the children, or the home on their own.

Ready to Start Your Surrogacy Journey?

If you are considering assisting an individual or couple as a Gestational Surrogate, please contact us. We’d be happy to answer any concerns you or your spouse may have about the process!

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Staci Swiderski, CEO and owner of Family Source Consultants, has been a prominent leader in reproductive medicine for over two decades. Through her strategic vision and dedication, she has developed Family Source Consultants into a globally recognized agency specializing in comprehensive egg donation and gestational surrogacy services. Under Staci’s leadership, the agency has become a trusted partner for intended parents, surrogates, and egg donors worldwide, known for its rigorous standards, compassionate support, and commitment to excellence in third-party reproduction.

Her professional insight is uniquely informed by her own family-building experiences. As an intended parent, Staci welcomed her son via gestational surrogacy in 2005, and as a known egg donor, she assisted an infertile couple in expanding their family. These experiences lend a rare depth to her leadership and have fueled her ongoing dedication to ethical, empathetic, and professional support within the field of reproductive medicine.