How can you maintain a strong relationship with your surrogate after the baby is born? Surrogates and intended parents often choose to maintain a relationship after the baby is born. In fact, 47 percent of children keep in touch with their surrogate and have reported having a great relationship with them. The matching process is a very delicate process, and our agency focuses on the relationship expectations between all parties. Ultimately, having a relationship with your surrogate after birth is up to you, but many find support and friendship when continuing the relationship.

  • Staying connected with your surrogate can be rewarding.
  • Open communication is essential.
  • Setting boundaries early on and respecting comfort levels is key.
  • Regular contact will help the bond grow naturally.

Tip #1: Consult Your Loved Ones

Whether it is your family, spouse, or even children, make sure you communicate with them your desires to maintain the relationship with your surrogate. Not everyone will be supportive of this decision. However, letting them know beforehand will give them time to process the information and provide feedback on the situation.

Tip #2: Communicate Openly and Honestly

Open communication is important between a surrogate and the intended parents both during and after surrogacy. Let your surrogate know your intentions for the relationship and ask them theirs as well. This will open the line of communication for future conversations and help build trust.

Tip #3: Establish Respect and Boundaries

Establish respect for one another as well as boundaries. It is important to respect each person involved in the relationship and their boundaries. You do not want to push them outside of their comfort zone or make them feel disrespected. Each side of the relationship is valuable.

Tip #4: Set up Regular Contact

The key to maintaining a good relationship is making time for one another. If you and your surrogate prefer talking via phone call or video chat, set up regular times to do so. Or, if you and your surrogate prefer to meet in person, schedule regular dates and times to get together. This will give you time to bond and continue to grow your relationship into the future.

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Staci Swiderski, CEO and owner of Family Source Consultants, has been a prominent leader in reproductive medicine for over two decades. Through her strategic vision and dedication, she has developed Family Source Consultants into a globally recognized agency specializing in comprehensive egg donation and gestational surrogacy services. Under Staci’s leadership, the agency has become a trusted partner for intended parents, surrogates, and egg donors worldwide, known for its rigorous standards, compassionate support, and commitment to excellence in third-party reproduction.

Her professional insight is uniquely informed by her own family-building experiences. As an intended parent, Staci welcomed her son via gestational surrogacy in 2005, and as a known egg donor, she assisted an infertile couple in expanding their family. These experiences lend a rare depth to her leadership and have fueled her ongoing dedication to ethical, empathetic, and professional support within the field of reproductive medicine.