Thought about becoming a surrogate? Wondering if it’s right for you?
Carrying a baby for someone else is one of the most amazing and selfless things you could ever do. For those who cannot have children themselves, a surrogate is a kind of hero. Many of our surrogate moms say that it was the best decision they ever made.
But surrogacy isn’t for everyone. As wonderful as it is to give someone such an amazing gift, there’s a lot of complicated stuff to get through first! That’s why it’s important to know whether you’d be a good fit.
Here are a few of the signs that you’d make an amazing surrogate!
You’re physically fit and healthy
Good health is a must. You don’t need to be a marathon runner or a gym junkie, but a good level of physiological health and fitness is crucial for both you and the baby. You’ll also be eating a healthy diet and getting the right nutritional support through both food and supplements. This applies before, during, and after your pregnancy.
Some other must-haves include being a non-smoker: that means no history of substance abuse. You should also have a good health history (both personal and family-wise) and a healthy BMI. Like any parent, your IPs would want their baby to have the best possible start in life.
You’re in a good frame of mind
It’s important to be both emotionally and psychologically healthy. The surrogacy journey can be stressful at times, so you’ll need to have the mental stamina to get through any tough times. Of course, you’ll be supported along the way by Family Source Consultants, your family and friends, and the Intended Parents, but you’ll still have to handle a lot of things by yourself. That’s why every prospective surrogate has to undergo a psychological assessment when they apply.
You have a great support network
No matter how strong you are, there will always be times when you need the support of other people. Friends and family are essential, and they should be on hand whether you need to celebrate, talk things over, or cry on a shoulder. They’ll also need to accompany you to certain appointments and procedures. In fact, one of the prerequisites when applying to become a surrogate is that you have a support person. This could be a partner, a family member, or a close friend: someone you love and trust.
You are devoted to other people
One of the requirements for becoming a surrogate is that you have already had a healthy pregnancy. This means you’re already a mom, so you know how powerful it is to bring a little person into the world. But to do that for someone else is even more powerful! You’ll be the sort of person who wants to change someone else’s life by carrying their child for them. Remember, surrogacy isn’t just about pregnancy: you’ll be interacting regularly with the Intended Parent/s and their families, as well as many consultants and doctors. That’s a lot of people!
You’re doing this for the right reasons
Okay, let’s be honest: being a surrogate has its financial benefits. But money can’t be your biggest motivation.
A surrogate should be someone who is primarily focused on giving, not receiving. Women who make amazing surrogates are those who hope to give an incredible gift and make a real impact on another person’s life. Consider that in some countries, surrogates are not paid at all. Would you still go ahead with the surrogacy journey if there was no compensation?
You love being pregnant
Pregnancy is different for everyone. Some women breeze through it and love every minute, and some women struggle. This is often a simple matter of genes, although health status can play a part, too.
If you’re lucky enough to have had easy pregnancies before, you may be a great candidate for becoming a surrogate. As you already know, being pregnant is no walk in the park. There are lots of great bits and lots of not-so-great bits. But if you’re prepared to go through it again for the sake of someone else, you could be the perfect surrogate!
You are patient and organized
As you know, having a baby takes some careful planning. Having a baby for someone else can take twice as much!
The surrogacy process takes several months and even years. A lot of time and dedication are required to keep up with your many appointments and milestones along the way. For a start, there are medical and psychological screenings to ensure you’re a good fit for the job. After you’ve been matched with your IPs, you’ll need to begin a course of hormone medication to prepare your body for the pregnancy. Then there’s the pregnancy itself – and more appointments. You’ll also need to be meeting with your IPs regularly – either online or in-person – as well as communicating with them to keep them updated.
If you’re good at managing a busy schedule, you’ll be great as a surrogate!
You’re a good communicator
Communication is key to being a surrogate. Your IPs will want to know how you’re doing, what’s coming up, and what they can help with. They’ll also want to see photos and see the occasional video. It’s important to know how to express yourself and to choose the right methods of communication.
You’ll also be talking to lots of other people involved in the process: your agency, your case manager, doctors, nurses, lawyers – the works! If interacting with people is a struggle for you, you may want to rethink becoming a surrogate. But if it’s something you love, you’ll thoroughly enjoy the journey!
If you’ve identified all of these signs, we’d love to hear from you! Contact us here for more information about becoming a surrogate with Family Source Consultants!