“FSC is wonderful. They will support you in the whole process. [Surrogacy] is much harder than you originally expect, but it is worth it 5 times over!!! It is such a gift for everyone involved!”
Q: What led you to become a Surrogate?
I wanted to help a woman who couldn’t carry a baby of her own. I was lucky enough to have 2 happy, healthy pregnancies and babies of my own, so I wanted to give this gift to someone else who couldn’t!
Q. Who was/is your largest support person/s throughout your journey?
Honestly, the people who helped me the most to get through a lot of the emotions of being a surrogate were the ladies on the FSC Facebook support group, along with the staff at FSC. Of course, my husband and family members were excited for me and supported all of my decisions, but they didn’t necessarily understand the emotions of process like the team at FSC does.
Q. What made you decide to choose your Intended Parents?
I chose my Intended Parents because of their story. I enjoyed my pregnancies so much that I couldn’t imagine what others go through who couldn’t get pregnant. My Intended Mother miscarried 5 times and finally learned that it was because of an immune system issue. I wanted to give her the baby she was trying so hard to get on her own, but couldn’t.
Q. What are some of the highlights of your journey?
I really enjoyed the 20 week ultrasound! I was able to skype with my Intended Parents since they are international. They loved being able to be a part of that appointment!
Q. Do you have advice for women who are interested in becoming a gestational surrogate?
Be prepared for things to not go as you originally planned. Almost every step of the way was different than I originally pictured in my head; but the end goal was to have a baby for another couple, and that is what I was able to do. Seeing their faces when she was born made all of the ups and downs worth it!!!
Q. What did you find was the biggest misconception people had about surrogacy?
So many people assume that when you have someone else’s baby, you will regret not keeping it for yourself. That is so far from the truth I cannot even put it in words… Although it is obviously not the norm, it really is possible to deliver a baby and be happy that you are giving it to his or her own parents.
Q. What would you like other people to know about surrogacy?
Being a surrogate is hard work, even harder than I expected. But I would do it all over again even if I knew exactly how hard it ended up being. It changed my life, and I couldn’t be prouder to have gone through the whole thing! With this said, be aware that it is common for transfers not to work, and for some pregnancies to end in miscarriage. Even if you have had very easy pregnancies of your own, IVF pregnancies are very (very!) different and do not follow the same rules as your own pregnancies.
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