“FSC did such a wonderful job of finding a couple I was so compatible with — it took me by surprise!”
Q: What led you to become a Surrogate?
I wanted to become a surrogate because I felt that I was being led by God to carry a child for another; so they could experience the joy and love of having a child of their own or completing their family.
Q. Who was/is your greatest support person/s throughout your journey?
I had so many people help support me along my journey, but my Biggest support person was my husband! He was there through everything, he was supportive of me, helped with the kids and household chores, cooked fantastic meals when I wasn’t feeling well. The others who helped were my sister-in-law and her husband. They took the kids on fun outings so I could have some time by myself throughout the entire journey. I’m so thankful that so many of my family helped out to have this surrogacy journey be a stress-free pregnancy.
Q. What made you decide to choose your Intended Parents?
I enjoyed reading their profile and wanted to have the initial meeting. Once we had the skype interview we just clicked! I loved how easy going they were, their personalities, and their faith values. FSC did such a wonderful job of finding a couple I was so compatible with — it took me by surprise! After we were matched and started getting to know each other we had many more things in common even though we lived in different countries.
Q. What are some of the highlights of your journey?
Watching my children see me help a family grow, my son always said “I was a walking, talking, breathing incubator.” Pretty accurate description coming from a 7-year-old! Another highlight was hearing my IP’s voices squeal and cry in delight when their daughter was born! I’ll never forget that moment.
Q. Do you have advice for women who are interested in becoming a gestational surrogate?
Be patient with the process, it is a hurry up and wait process, this takes time and investment on you and your family. Every journey is different, every surrogate is different so don’t expect yours to be “textbook”. Some journeys take multiple transfers and others take one. Don’t be too hasty to choose a family just because you want to start your journey, find the one that you click with at the beginning. Also, don’t rush your contract its wording and length can be daunting so look it over carefully and it’s okay to revise it multiple times before it becomes official. It’s okay to have all sorts of emotions including being nervous. The family you are about to help is also going through those emotions too. And be kind to yourself throughout the journey, you are about to do an amazing thing for a couple to become a family. Extreme Babysitting for the win!
Q. What did you find was the biggest misconception people had about surrogacy?
Aren’t you going to get attached? Isn’t the child yours? Well, how are your children going to react to not having a baby around? I felt like I was getting some pretty common ones and then others that I simply ignored cause you can’t please everyone. I answered people nicely if I had the time and if I didn’t I would just say “yes were are so happy”. So to answer these questions; my family gained another family with my IP’s which we weren’t expecting to happen so that is a very big plus for us. My children are quite happy that mommy is back to “normal” again and can go places and walk normally. And nope, I didn’t get attached and I’m not heartbroken — in fact, I’m over the moon! With God’s help, I grew a child that wasn’t mine to keep! And that child is being loved by her parents who wouldn’t have had her if it wasn’t for surrogacy. I also love the phrase Extreme Babysitting!
Q. How has becoming a surrogate impacted your life?
It has really helped shape my perspective on the love and commitment it takes to create families. I feel more humble about how blessed I was to have my family. This opportunity to help others has given me a higher purpose in life. I have a lot more respect for people who must undergo fertility treatment for something that we take for granted everyday! I never thought my heart could be so full until I decided to take the journey to create families.
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